Q: My husband says when we disagree that I don’t fight fair. Any idea what he meant?
A: Ummm, let’s see! Do you answer in a loud voice that could be misconstrued as yelling? Do you bring up the past? Do you purposely say hurtful things? Do you speak in a condescending manner? If you do any of the above, then just maybe the disagreement could tilt negatively.
I feel that I’m a nice person but when provoked, my tongue can slice and dice! So, I try to step away and postpone the discussion until I calm down, but I always revisit the conversation. Remember that life usually continues after a disagreement and once the words peel off your tongue, you can’t retrieve them. So try not to say things that saying ‘I’m sorry’ can’t eradicate. Think before you pounce!
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